February 10, 2011

St. Upid's Day


As Valentine's Day approaches, my mind always turns to thoughts of love. Of course. It's what we're supposed to do. Right? Focus on the one person we love... give them things to prove our love... make sure we tell them we're in love... blah, blah, blah. If we're single and really lucky, maybe we get a card and cookie from our mom or best friend.

Most of my V-Days have been sadly lacking in the romance department. I'm either single or I have an uncanny ability to annoy the man in my life just before the big day hits. Several years ago I was happily single, and being in the same Valentineless condition, a friend came up with St. Upid's Day. I thought it was quite brilliant of him at the time, and the thought of St. Upid's Day (and my friend Rob) still makes me smile.

Read this title slowly...

St. Upid's Day

(yep, stupid)

It's the anti-Valentine's Day day celebrated on February 13 by those who have no love, are tired of love, have been broken by love, are sick of feeling forced by the commercial machine to buy useless gifts, or those who just want another excuse to celebrate something and drink. St. Upid has a Facebook account, but he seems to be distracted these days. He also has a Twitter ID, but is apparently too busy to Tweet at the moment. Perhaps he's found love himself and is now spending February 13 at the mall searching for that perfect V-Day gift. I don't know.

Happy Valentine's Day to those who celebrate it!

Happy St. Upid's Day to those who don't!

225 comments:

  1. LOL! I think I'm going to celebrate St. Upid's Day this year! No Valentine for me. :(

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  2. I LOVE this idea! Count me among the ones who has no Valentine this year. Even when I do, it typically doesn't go well. I can't tell you how many disastrous "V-Days" I've had, so celebrating St. Upid's Day on February 13 sounds great!

    Whether you're celebrating Valentine's Day or St. Upid's Day, hope you have a good one!

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  3. Another excuse to celebrate something and drink? I thought that was St. Atrick's Day!

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  4. @Christy: This is great! I have a Valentine this year, but I'll still jump on the St. Upid's Day train. Too commercial. Like that you ended by wishing everyone happy "V-Day" and happy "St. Upid's Day". Which are you celebrating? Can't tell from the post.

    @Steven: St. Upid's Day is the warm-up for St. Atrick's Day! Both are created to wean you from the colors of Christmas...red, green.

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  5. Great idea! I'm swapping to St. Upid's Day. I usually wear black on Valentine's Day and call it the National Day of Mourning for Singles. I haven't had a Valentine on the actual day in years, so it just annoys me to no end. There have been a couple of years I've taken the day off of work because it irritated me to watch everyone get flowers except me. Yes. Everyone in my office gets flowers. Everyone. All of them. Makes me feel really left out and unloved. Now I'll just celebrate St. Upid's Day. I think I'll gather up some of my single friends and make a day of it since it's on Sunday this year. Thanks for sharing this!

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  6. Oh dear. If St. Upid has found love, what's the rest of the world to do? Wait! This means there is hope for the rest of us! I wonder what kind of woman St. Upid falls for? What magical powers does she have that made him leave his own day and hit the mall? We must investigate!

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  7. @Anna: I'm on it! I'll dig through the files of TMZ, People, The National Enquirer, etc. to see what I can find about this mystery woman and St. Upid. I mean, they are a celebrity couple, so there has to be something.

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  8. @Hooka Looka... LOL! Yes! See if they have a nickname, like Brangelina. I wonder where they vacation. Maybe they've adopted kids from other holidays...Cupid! I'll bet they adopted Cupid!

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  9. @Anna: You are indeed correct. They adopted Cupid, a leprechaun, and a few of Santa's elves. Apparently they equate small with child. Her name remains a mystery, but she appears to be an ordinary human, not of holiday form. Will continue my research.

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  10. @Hooka Looka... I found it! Her name is Vanessa and the couple nickname is Vapid. This is getting worse. I fear for St. Upid's future. He's losing himself.

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  11. @Anna: No one likes a sellout. This is why his popularity has declined. St. Upid's Day is in danger of becoming just another forgotten holiday. Vapid must be stopped!

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  12. @Hooka Looka... But how? He's gone to the dark side. He's now celebrating... ack... Val... Valen... Valentine's Day! Nooooooo!!!!

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  13. @Anna: Are you up for breaking up the couple known as Vapid? You realize this means breaking up a happy home of elves, leprechauns, and Cupid.

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  14. @Hooka Looka... Yes. I'm ready for the job. If Vapid is no more, then St. Upid's Day can be saved. Millions of people will be happy. Hold on. But what if I want what Vapid has? What if I want the love, hearts, flowers, kids? I want to be Vapid!

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  15. @Anna: There is no hope. Vapid has won, and I'm afraid Valentine's Day is here to stay. Giving in and leaving for the mall to find the perfect gift for mine.

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  16. @Hooka Looka... Good luck in your search. I will continue to look for Mr. Right. I wish Vapid would free Cupid so he could help me. :)

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  17. I don't even know what to write after reading that exchange! LMAO!

    @Christy I'm celebrating Valentine's Day this year. It's a first in a long time for me. Yaya! I like the St. Upid's Day concept. It takes something that can be depressing for a lot of people and makes it fun. Too bad it isn't a real holiday. The singles in the world need something to balance out the "day of love". St. Upid's Day would be the perfect thing. Get a bunch of single friends together, have a party, laugh, have fun. What could be better? Then the sting of being a lonely heart the next day wouldn't be a sting at all. You'd know you were loved by your friends because you were reminded the day before when you were all together. Awesome idea!

    Good post! I'm going to share the concept with some of my still single friends. I think they'll like it.

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  18. @Anna:
    "Vapid" - LMAO!! Priceless.

    @Hooka and Cupid:
    You didn't stand a chance defeating Vapid. Why not? Hello? Magic! (And they're all very short, although I'm not sure that has anything to do with anything...)

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  19. @Christy and Sarah - Yes! By celebrating on February 13 with friends, you're reminding yourself you're loved, even if you don't have a Valentine the next day, so who cares! Excellent post! Sunday I'm organizing a party for my friends at my place. Thanks for inspiring me. I was dreading Monday because my boyfriend and I broke up last month. Now I'm not as much. :-)

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  20. @Hooka and Anna:
    Oops. My comment was supposed to be to you two, not Cupid. (And now I've dissed an armed cherub. Great.)

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  21. @Tara, I'm glad you're going to celebrate on the 13th with friends! Breaking up is hard, but especially just before Valentine's Day. Remember, you're never alone and your friends always love you.

    @Christy, this was great timing it appears.

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  22. @Steven64, LMAO! Meant to include you in my previous comment.

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  23. @Steven64... Magic! You're right. We didn't have a chance against the forces of magic. Although, had we been up for a quest, I'm sure we could have discovered ways to defeat it.

    And LMOA at the Cupid comment!

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  24. I'm single and going to celebrate on February 13 with my friends too! Fabu idea! I've already sent a text blast to everyone and it's coming together. The 14th has no power over me this year! The love of my friends will be enough to carry me through. Yay!!!!!

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  25. A friend sent me the link to this. Love it! We're planning a February 13 party. Happy St. Upid's Day! Or Happy Valentine's Day! Don't know which you're celebrating. :)

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  26. @Steven64 Good to see I'm not the ONLY guy on here commenting.

    @Christy great post! Like everyone else, I like the idea of St. Upid's Day. It doesn't have to be a depressing time of year. It can be a time to remember who cares about you. Moving the day you celebrate to the day before Valentine's Day takes the romance out of the equation. That's the problem with "V-Day" as you put it. It's thought of as a day of romance. Wish they had cards for St. Upid's Day. I'd send one to my single friends. Maybe next year I'll make my own.

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  27. Hi! Got this from a friend of mine who is organizing a St. Upid's Day party for Sunday night. Brilliant idea! Rob is a genius! Thanks for sharing it with us!

    Love, love, love the comments from Anna and Hooka Looka about Vapid! Very funny stuff! Look out for Cupid Steven! LOL!

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  28. @John, great idea! Someone needs to make St. Upid's Day cards. Assuming, of course, that @Hooka Looka and @Anna can break up Vapid and get the day back on track. LOL!

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  29. @Steven64: Magic, you say. This presents me with a challenge. The possibility of a Vapid breakup is not over. Beware of Cupid. You have now annoyed the small winged one. Keep your Valentine close. Watch each other's backs, and other parts.

    @Anna: A quest! We must! Consider this. Vapid breaks up. Cupid is freed. Romance for you is eminent! Sorry @Steven64. This will mean a Cupid on the loose.

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  30. @Sarah: Of course we can breakup Vapid. Have you not seen our work? Check out all the celebrity breakups happening these days. Yep, Anna and Hooka Looka. We are stealthy.

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  31. Is it OK to put this on here? ♥ Because I really do like this post and all teh comments. You've all made me smile. ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

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  32. It's not my blog, but I say ♥ away @Elichia!

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  33. I like your post. A friend emailed the link to me and we're getting some people together Sunday too. I'd add a heart because reading the post and all the comments made me smile too, but I don't know how. :)

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  34. @All:
    Y'know what's gonna happen? Hallmark is gonna find out about this (they always do) and St. Upid's Day cards and trinkets are gonna start popping at a mall near you! Upid charm bracelets, cherub necklaces, Upid elf un-love rings.

    @Hooka:
    Fortunately I have the protection of a Valentine so the Small Winged (pronounced "weeng-ed") beast will find an attack on me and mine fruitless. But my thoughts and hopes are with you and Anna as you embark on your quest. Slay the little naked imp! Slay him, I say!

    @John:
    I wonder how many GUYS are putting together St. Upid's Day parties. LOL!

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  35. @Elichia:
    Yes, indeedy, heart away!

    @Laura:
    Heart is: Shift Comma and then a 3, like so: <3 :-)

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  36. @Steven64: You are a lucky man indeed to have the protection of a Valentine! The attack by the Small Winged (weeng-ed) beast shall be for naught against you and your lady fair. @Anna and I shall be victorious in our quest against the imp! Hoorah and forward ho!

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  37. @Steven64 LOL! I'm not throwing a party, but the concept is cool. I'm serious about the cards and thinking about making my own. I said I wish they made St. Upid's Day cards, but then that would take away from it. Then that holiday would be commercial. Would be kind of cool if it caught on. Wouldn't it?

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  38. A friend is organizing a party on Sunday to celebrate St. Upid’s Day. I said, “Whaaaaa?” She gave me the link to your blog. Funny! I love it! I’m full onboard with it. I don’t know what you hoped would happen with this post, but looking at all the posts, I think you’re on to something here. Hope you have a Valentine this year and hope you haven’t annoyed him! LOL! :-)

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  39. Lots of comments to scroll through just to get to the comment box! Good post. Like with others, it was sent to me by a friend and we're doing something Sunday too. Brunch! We're going to see if we can find a spa that's open. There's nothing like friends, brunch, facials, massages, etc. to take your mind off of not having a Valentine the next day. Thanks to you and all the people who commented for giving me a new perspective!

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  40. I was getting ready to just say thanks and that my friends and I are doing something Sunday too, but hey Terri, GREAT idea about the spa! I'm giong to see if my friends want to do that.

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  41. @John:
    It would be cool if we managed to finagle royalties outta somebody! St. Upid may not be so 'stupid' after all!

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  42. @Christy

    Happy Valentine's Day or St. Upid's Day!

    Hope you're celebrating V-Day!

    ♥♥♥♥

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  43. Holy cow! Look at all these comments! I got this from a friend too. St. Upid's Day is going to be the best. And I'm totally stealing the spa idea!

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  44. St. Upid's Day. Catchy. A friend of mine invited me for dinner Sunday. She knew I just went through a bad breakup and was really sad about Valentine's Day coming up. My husband and I always did something very romantic and special. This will really help me through it. And knowing there are so many other people doing the same thing is really nice! Thanks!

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  45. "And in national news... An unprecedented number of happy, smooth-faced singles began appearing at their places of employment on Valentine's Day. Unconfirmed sources mentioned a 'St. Upid', but these accounts are anecdotal best. Meanwhile, Hallmark announced a precipitous drop in Valentine's Day card sales..."

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  46. Hope you have a special someone and are celebrating V-Day! Oh and hope you haven't and don't annoy him. :-)

    I'm celebrating St. Upid's day with my friends. Not as depressing as I expected it to be this year.

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  47. I feel like I should just say "ditto" at this point. LOL! Really liked the exchange between Anna, Hooka Looka, and Steven64. Great fun!

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  48. Well, I was going to post some sad story about me being alone on V-Day, but I can see now that I'm going to have to get my friends together on Sunday! LOL! Great idea!

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  49. Add me to the Sunday partying club. We're doing brunch with champagne! Several of us have had breakups recently, so this is just what we need. Very happy someone sent this to me! Thanks for the idea! Thank your friend Rob!

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  50. St. Upid, oh how I love thee. Let me count the ways...

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  51. @Cheryl: LMAO!!

    @Christy: Y'started something here, babe!

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  52. I'd like an update from Hooka Looka and Anna about their quest. I hope they make it without dire incidents. Maybe they can tell us where they are. Somewhere in Mordor? I don't know where Vapid lives.

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  53. @Steven64, I think she did start something! Are you her Valentine? If so, happy V-Day to you both! I hope it's a very good one!

    @Christy, the St. Upid's Day thing made me laugh and feel better about the upcoming "holiday" which really isn't a holiday. I needed to read your post. I needed to read the many comments that followed too. There are a lot of great ideas here.

    @Colleen, I'm with you! Let's get an update on the quest. Maybe they're in Oz.

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  54. Other ideas for where Hooka Looka and Anna may be: Romulus, Agartha, Florin, the island from Lost, a snowstorm somewhere in the US.

    Like the post and all the comments, btw. :-)

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  55. Hey, I want in on this.

    Hooka Looka and Anna are on...

    * Amity Island avoiding the sharks
    * Skull Island thinking King Kong can help
    * Waponi Wu avoiding the volcano
    * Hedeby Island lost in another mystery
    * Tortuga Island enlisting the aid of Pirates
    * Fantasy Island where anything is possible

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  56. My friend sent me this link and I wanted to add my thanks to everyone for the great ideas!

    @Christy, thank you for starting this thing. I'm sure to you it seemed like a simple post, but I want you to know we have a group of about 15 people getting together Sunday to have dinner, play games, and just hang out and remember that we may be single, but we're not alone. @Steven64 is right, you started something here! If he's your Valentine, I'm with Megan in hoping you two have a purely perfect day or evening together. Don't do anything to annoy him between now and Monday! LOL! I'm sure you won't. :-) If he's not, oops! I still hope you have a good one!

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  57. Forgive me if I get the person wrong because there are so many and I had to copy this then scroll way down to make my comment, then paste it...

    @Steven64 said...

    "And in national news... An unprecedented number of happy, smooth-faced singles began appearing at their places of employment on Valentine's Day. Unconfirmed sources mentioned a 'St. Upid', but these accounts are anecdotal best. Meanwhile, Hallmark announced a precipitous drop in Valentine's Day card sales..."

    Just wanted to say...LMAO! That's really funny!

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  58. @Steven64, that is funny!

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  59. Mmmm..... I had to scroll down so far I forgot what I was going to say. Oh yeah! :-)

    I like your post and your writing style. I read a few of your other items while I was here and I've bookmarked your blog so I can visit again. Since I'm here, I'll just comment on a couple of things at once. The mushroom post cracked me up! I think they do the same thing with them at my store! The literally post was great! That's one of my pet peeves too. And then there's this one. St. Upid is cute. I like that you wrote you were "happily" single at the time. So many people think of being single as a bad thing and it isn't always.

    Keep up the great writing and I'll keep reading!

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  60. @Meagan and Carrie: We haven't pissed each other too badly, so Christy and I should have a maaahvelous Valentine's Day! (I wonder if you're allowed to celebrate St. Upid's Day too...)

    @Katie and Sarah: Thanks, ladies! :-)

    @Hooka and Anna: I'm just cracking up at all the places people are trying to send you two on your quest to vanquish Vapid and his minions! (Vapid's gotta be a 'him' because no woman would be that unromantic.) Y'know, it's not too late to just say "screw the quest" and watch TV instead. Just sayin'...

    @Christy: Guess we won't be chatting later since you're gonna be READING ALL NIGHT! ♥

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  61. Just wanted to say I like your post. It's clever. I think V-day is too commercial. Hate it in fact. I take the day off and watch movies. Won't be having a party, but I'll toast St. Upid.

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  62. @Steven64: Who says you can't celebrate both? Why not? Go for it and have fun! Wishing you two a beautiful Valentine's Day full of love! :-)

    I agree with Katie and Sarah about your comment. Funny!

    @Christy: See my comment to @Steven64. :-)

    I also want to say thanks for posting this. Lots of interest! I couldn't believe I had to scroll down so far to make a comment, but that's good for you! Or maybe not because it sounds like you won't get to talk to your man tonight because you'll be reading comments! LOL! :-)

    Seriously, it's a fun idea and I'm sure it was something you and your friend Rob just tossed out there one day and didn't think too much of. Look what's happened here. You've inspired a lot of people to do something different. That's very cool! You just changed lives girl!

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  63. Oh, I wanted to add that Hooka Looka and Anna could be Neverland, The Black Forest, or just a land far, far away.

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  64. I've actually heard of St. Upid's Day! A friend mentioned it once a couple of years ago. He heard about it from someone in Dallas. Wonder how. Very funny!

    I have a Valentine this year, but I'm passing some of these ideas on to some friends I'm meeting for lunch tomorrow. Maybe they might be interested in planning their own St. Upid's Day day.

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  65. @Steven64... I'm very afraid of the places people are trying to send Hooka and me on our quest. I've never heard of some of them, and can't seem to find them in my Atlas or on Google Maps. I hate to break it to Hooka, but I'm saying, "Screw the quest. I'm staying ome and watching TV."

    @Hooka Looka... You're on your own, friend. Safe journeys. May you be invisible to Vapid. May Cupid not nip at your heels. May the elves and leprechauns stay off your paths. Please keep in touch.

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  66. Does St. Upid really have a Facebook and Twitter account?

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  67. And is that an ACTUAL photograph of St. Upid?

    Like the idea. Kind of funny.

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  68. I was going to read the comments, but there are too many! I don't know what others have written or if I'm restating what they've said, but here goes.

    This is a cute idea for those of us who are single. Valentine's Day is always so hard for me because I was married on February 14 and nine years later it was finalized on February 14. Kind of messed up. So it's a bad day for me. I haven't had a "Valentine" since my divorce many years ago, so it's always a really bad day when I have to watch everyone get flowers, cute gifts, etc. from their significant others. I always remember all the flowers I got. I feel unloved. I'm wondering if spending a day with friends the day before, celebrating together will help me. Maybe it will remind me I'm not really unloved. Maybe.

    I just wanted to thank you for sharing this idea. Obviously it's either popular or not because you have a lot of comments. I'll try to read them later. Right now I'm going to call my best friend and tell her about my idea of spending time with friends Sunday.

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  69. Oh Cammy. I'm so sorry about February 14 being such a bad day for you. That really is terrible! I hope you enjoy your day with your friends on Sunday. Let them be your St. Upid's Day dates, and let them remind you that you are loved and why you are loved.

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  70. LOL! I was scrolling down to make a comment and the island comment caught my eye. So then I had to scroll back up to see what the heck that person was talking about. Which led me to more looking to see what the next person was talking about. Long story short, I'm LMAO at the Vapid and Cupid shtick. You guys are a hoot! I didn't intend to spend so much time reading the comments, but glad I did.

    Now I can't remember what I was originally going to write to you, but I did like your post. The St. Upid's Day idea is inventive and fun. What a great way to get away from the idea that we have to celebrate only romantic love on February 14.

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  71. You should move the comment box to the top. I had to scroll way down to get to this. Too much trouble.

    Like the post though.

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  72. Thanks for the post! I've read some of the comments about having brunch, going to a spa, or having a party. Great ideas! Some friends and I have done this on Valentine's Day the past two years. I sent a link to you blog to my friends to see if they want to do a St. Upid's Day thing instead. I think it would be fun! Much better than doing it on 2/14.

    Hope you have Steven have a great Valentine's Day! I think it's very nice of you to share this with us even though you have a Valentine.

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  73. LMAO! I read the comments. Well, I was scanning them and saw the ones about Vapid. I just want to state, "I'M NOT THAT VANESSA!" LOL! Very funny comments guys! I was actually laughing out loud at your posts.

    Christy, I really like the St. Upid's Day thing. This should be a national thing. How do we do that? Let's get it going! Someone said something about cards, charm bracelets, necklaces, etc. LOL! I can see it now!

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  74. OMG! It's like the scroll from hell to get to the bottom of the comments! LOL!

    A few responses, in no particular order:

    @Jamie: Thanks for the Valentine's wish. :-)

    @Anna: I'm with ya!

    @Hooka: Safe journey, my erstwhile Cupid-killer! (That doesn't really make that much sense, but I wanted to type "Cupid-killer" 'cos I thought it sounded clever.)

    @Vanessa: LMAO!!

    @Missy: I don't know about the FB and Twitter accounts, but I'm pretty sure that's a picture of Cupid on steroids. :-P

    @Jeannie:
    Thanks for the encouragement. Upid and Valentine sounds like a cool double-date! :-)

    Phew!

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  75. @All, thank you for the overwhelming response today! Wow! I posted this on a whim last night while I was prepping food for a dinner I felt unprepared to make. I felt more confident about the blog post than the food, so it felt good to do something solid. I'm really happy you enjoyed it, and even happier that many of you have found a way to celebrate St. Upid's Day with friends! That's what it's all about. Enjoy your Sunday and don't let Monday bother you. Remember, you have people in your life who love you.

    @Missy, yes St. Upid actually has Twitter and Facebook accounts, but sadly, he's not active at the moment. I don't want to wish bad things on a Saint, but fingers crossed that he breaks up with Vanessa (not to be confused with the Vanessa that posted a comment) and begins posting before St. Upid's Day 2012. He uses that picture as his Twitter avatar, but I'm with Steven, and don't believe it's really him.

    @John, if you create cards, I'd love to see an electronic version of them (my e-mail is in my profile). I know my friend Rob would too. Even though he's very happily married now, he's still promoting St. Upid's Day.

    @Janet, it's such a small world! How funny that you've heard of St. Upid's Day. I know Rob is still telling people about it, so there are a lot of people who know now.

    @Hooka Looka, @Anna, and @Steven, thanks for the laughs about Vapid and Cupid! I only wish I could have jumped in and been part of the fun today! @Hooka, if you thought the moors were scary, wait until you venture into lands unknown! @Steven and @Anna are right. Screw the quest, stay home and watch TV. We need you in blogland!

    @Rita, thanks for the compliment about my other posts, and I'm thrilled you've bookmarked me!

    To everyone who wished me a happy Valentine's Day, thank you very much! To quote my Valentine, Steven, I think we're going to have a maaahvelous Valentine's Day! I'm looking forward to it!

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  76. Love St. Upid's Day!

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  77. Why do I feel like I'm coming to a party late? LOL! I had to scroll waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay down to get here. Worth it!

    Someone sent this to me this afternoon, but I just read it tonight. We're doing brunch and the spa on Sunday. Girls only. I'm so looking forward to it. This will take the sting off of Monday. When everyone is getting flowers, I'll just remember my relaxing time with friends the day before.

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  78. @Steven64: Chicks rock! LOL!

    @Christy: My girls and I are picking out our favorite non-romantic movies to watch Sunday and we're having a marathon. Everyone is bringing their favorite food and drink and we're stuffing ourselves silly. Indulgence!

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  79. @Sherry, the spa thing sounds wonderful.

    @Sara, love your movie and food marathon plan.

    Enjoy, ladies! And happy St. Upid's Day!

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  80. And St. Upid's Day to the two guys here! LOL!

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  81. Yes! I didn't mean to forget the guys! Happy St. Upid's Day to y'all too! LOL! ;-)

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  82. Yes, my friends and I will be celebrating too. Just thought I'd add us to the loooooong list of people. :-)

    Hope you have a great Valentine's Day!

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  83. I think a couple of my friends left comments on here somewhere, but thought I would too. We're planning dinner and non-romantic movies Sunday. We're also dressing up. What's a party if you don't dress? We thought, we don't need Valentines to put on our best and have a nice night. Thanks for the St. Upid's Day idea!

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  84. @Erin:
    "Valentines? VAH-lentines?? We doan nee' no steenkin' VAH-lentines!" (I know, I know, that's St.Upid, but it popped into my head as soon as I read your comment!) I hope you and your friends have fun tomorrow; I'm sure you'll all look great! :-)

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  85. @Steven: LOL! Good one! And thanks. We're all excited. It's been a rough few months for most of us in the romance department. We need to get together and remind each other that we're fabulous women with really good qualities. It's going to be a night to remember here! And if we don't have guys next year or even if we do, we'll do it again next year! :)

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  86. @Erin - That's what our best girlfriends are for! ;)

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  87. @Erin and Shannon:
    That's the spirit! Christy and I were talking about Valentine's Day the other day because she was surprised that I had four Valentine's cards to mail out. She was like, "But I'M your Valentine!" I've always had a few non-romantic Valentines in my life, though, even when I'm 'involved'. My mom, my best friend (who's a woman; it'd be a little...weird if it were a guy), people like that. I like the idea of Valentine's Day being an excuse to let the people you care about -- romantically or otherwise -- know how you feel. Naturally, Christy's was bigger than the others! LOL!

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  88. @Steven64 - Your best friend is a woman and you sent her a Valentine? All I can say is Christy is a much better woman than me. I'm not sure I'd be OK with that. It's one thing for women to recognize each other as friends on Valentine's Day or for a man to recognize a woman if he's not seeing someone seriously on Valentine's Day, but for a man to send another woman a Valentine when he's seriously involved with someone, I don't know. That doesn't seem right.

    I think you just gave me an idea for a good discussion with the girls tomorrow. Is it OK for the man you're involved with to give another woman a Valentine if he's assured you they are just friends? If you're interested, I'll post what I find out.

    I am REALLY glad to hear that Christy's is bigger than the others. I hope you are also doing something very special for her. In case you haven't guessed, we women like to be reminded of how fabulous we are on Valentine's Day! ;)

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  89. @Steven64 - We also like to be pampered and get flowers. Just trying to help you out. Ha! ;)

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  90. @Christy, Steven, Anna: I've been to the edges of the earth. There is no hospitable life out there. Turning around to come back. It is much worse than the 'shroom edges of the moors. Wait for my arrival back to blogland. Will park myself in front of the TV and hope Vapid and Cupid don't find out I was searching for them. Have heard they are bad mothers.

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  91. @Shannon:
    Oohhh no, we discussed the woman-as-best-friend-getting-a-valentine thing at length. But Christy knows (of) my friend and knows we've been friends for years through some trying times and that there's no need for concern. My Valentine friend is more like my Jewish mom! I'd still be interested to hear what your friends have to say about it though. It's a weird gray-area for me. And thanks for 'helping me out'! :-)

    @Hooka:
    I don't know about Vapid, but Cupid can be...mean. Glad you gave up and are joining us in front of the boob tube. Much safer...

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  92. @Shannon, I'm not as understanding as one might hope. It was an opportunity for us to have a discussion as well, and learn about each other. I'd be interested in hearing what the girls have to say about it tomorrow, so if you remember to post it, please do!

    @Steven, LOL about the St. Upid, steenkin' VAH-lentines comment! You make me smile! ;-)

    @Hooka Looka, I'm thrilled to hear you're returning to blogland! I believe Cupid is the worst. Vapid is in love and preoccupied at the moment. Be safe, my friend.

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  93. Wowie! I just read ALL the comments. That took me some time. It's OK. I had nothing better to do on a Saturday. LOL!

    I know at least one of the commenters is a friend, so ditto on the party thing!

    I have to add to Shannon's reply to @Steven64. I'm with you girlfriend! If my man told me he was sending a Valentine to some other woman, best friend/sort of friend/co-worker/whatever, I'd have a big problem. You just don't do that if you're seriously dating, seeing someone, living with them, married, or otherwise monogamous. You just don't.

    @Steve64, for women, Valentine's Day is special. It's a day when a couple focuses on each other. You don't send out cards to other women. Not cards of any kind. If you do, it lessens the day fro your special lady, and it makes her wonder if you have feelings for the other woman. It also says, you're just one of several women in my life. That's OK if you're talking about your mom, sister, grandma, but NOT female "friends". I'm glad to hear Christy was understanding about your Jewish mom, but you're lucky. Maybe it's because you've told her she's a mom to you and that's why Christy is OK with it. If you had just said she was a friend, I wonder how she would have felt. I would have had a problem with it.

    I also think it sends a message to the friend that there may be hope of something more being there some day, depending on the kind of relationship. What if she has a secret crush on you? Then you just encouraged her crush to develop. I'm not saying that's true of your Jewish mom, because obviously it isn't, but for other men who might be reading this, think before you send cards to other women. You don't know what is going on in their minds. You may THINK you do, but you don't. We OFTEN have crushes on you guys and you NEVER KNOW. It just seems that sending Valentine's Day cards to other women is a dangerous thing. But maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think I am.

    I want to hear what Shannon's girls have to say too. @Shannon, you're on the hook now!

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  94. I love all the comments but what is not being said is that if Steven64 and Christy are Valentines they won't been spending it in the same city because they live in two different states.

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  95. @Anne: Wow! The Valentine's Day card to my female best friend really opened up a can o'worms! Just to totally clarify, she and I have been purely platonic buds for going on 8 years now and there's never been anything remotely romantic or even flirtatious between the two of us. (She's also a bit older than I am.) Our friendship developed more like brother and sister over the years, rather than potential intimate partners. And if she's been carrying a torch for me all these years, she's hidden it really well! But I appreciate your concern and your warning to other guys that might wander into this minefield. :-)

    @Shannon: I'm with Anne - if you and your friends don't end up talking about this at some point tomorrow, you're gonna have to make something up!! LOL!

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  96. Hey, Anonymous! So what? My husband and I are in 2 different states due to job stuff. We're celebrating Valentines together via Skype. We see each other EVERY night. Big deal. You sound bitter and jealous.

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  97. @Anonymous..me bitter and jealous, no. I have had a Valentine for 21 years, and see him everyday. So I apologize if I came across that way, and think it's great that you can Skype with your husband. But it sounds like you need some face to face time with hubby. So I think you need to chill a little.

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  98. Anonymous, I wasn't trying to start anything with you, I was just pointing out that there was no need for your original post. What was your goal with that? I'd really like to know. It doesn't matter at all and it DID come across as mean spirited. You knew what you were writing was wrong, otherwise you would have used your name. But because you didn't, you knew you were being bitchy. Yes, I said it. You were being bitchy.

    As for my status with my husband, in a perfect world it would be great if we lived and worked in the same state, but we don't. The economy has forced us to do what we have to do in order to provide for our family right now. This isn't a permanent situation and we know it. We see each other live, one-on-one once a month because that's what we can afford right now. I would LOVE to live in the same house as my husband, but I don't have that luxury. Good for you that you do. We are doing our best to keep things going by using Skype, phones, texting, email, etc. and I think we're doing it well. When we see each other, we're excited and happy. Don't knock how I live because you DON'T know my situation. And don't knock what others have going on because it apparently works for them. You're the one who needs to chill.

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  99. Thanks for the post about St. Upid. I enjoyed it.

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  100. I feel the need to jump in here. I'm sure I'll get slammed too.

    To Anonymous #1. Your first post didn't seem to have a purpose other than to be mean. I don't understand why you felt you had to point it out. If they are in love, what does it matter? It seems that you know them and you have a problem with... something. Whatever it is, you should keep it off the public posts and address it with them privately. Your second post to Anonymous #2 was not nice either. Good that you've been married for 21 years and apparently live with your husband. Not everyone is that fortunate these days. Please be kind and understanding of others who are in difficult situations. I'm sure that all couples who are living in different cities and states would much prefer to be in the same location. Sadly, life just doesn't work out nice and neat all the time. There is no need to point out your good fortune and make suggestions about what other people should do.

    To Anonymous #2. It probably would have been better to just let the post go. I understand your ire. I felt it too when I read it. I chose to ignore it and hoped others would too. I'm sorry you and your husband have to live in separate states right now. I hope that changes for you some day soon. But yay that you're finding ways to keep your love and relationship going. You're not alone. I know others who are having to do this as well. Long distance relationships are now involving married couples, not just singles.

    To Everyone Else. Can we let this one go? It doesn't matter whether two people live in the same state or the same city. If they are in love and are finding a way to make it work, good for them. Let's be happy for them and wish them well. I find it sad and disappointing that someone felt they had to bring down what was a really great, happy, fun blog with something like this.

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  101. I know when to wave the white flag and admit I was wrong in my post...so as Sarah said moving on so something new.

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  102. @Sarah: Well said, m'dear. :-)

    And thank St. Valentine and St. Upid for WEBCAMS and SKYPE!!!

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  103. Things seem to have calmed down now, so I'm going back to Anne's topic from this morning. I've been thinking about it all day and wanted to post this for any men who might be reading this.

    If you are friends with a woman, particularly if you consider her your best friend or a very close friend who you share intimate details of your life with, there is a VERY good chance she is either in love with you or has a crush on you and YOU DON'T KNOW. I say this from personal experience.

    I have been best friends with a man for several years. We don't do a lot together, except meet for lunch now and then, but we talk on the phone, send emails, share texts, and Skype now and then. He's seeing someone and so am I at the moment. BUT. I'm in love with him and have been for a long time. HE DOESN'T KNOW. I know you're thinking he probably does, but NO. He doesn't have a clue. As far as he's concerned, we're buddies. I tell him all about the men I'm dating and try to cover it up.

    We tell each other about the people we're dating, we talk about our jobs, we talk about movies, books, politics, religion, and so on. We talk about everything. I keep my real feelings about him hidden. It started as a crush several years ago and suddenly I realized I was in love with him. I can't help it. I continue the friendship with the stupid hope that one day he will see that I'm the perfect person for him. I know it's silly movie stuff, but it's there.

    So men, if you are friends with a woman. Close friends with a woman. There is a good chance she has a crush on you or is in love with you and you should NOT encourage those feelings by giving her Valentine's Day cards, flirting with her, and so on. It just encourages the love and crush and gives her hope. I know this from experience. My friend does this to me and I always get my hopes up thinking he is starting to feel the same way, and then I realize he still just sees me as his friend because he's still dating Suzie Sidewinder.

    I've talked to several women who have been through this. It isn't just me. I'm not saying all male/female relationships are this way, but guys, listen for clues when she talks or writes you. They are there. She will want to get closer in some way or keep you in her world. I'm just trying to help you guys out.

    So I've said my peace and I'll let it go.

    I hope everyone has a very happy St. Upid's Day or Valentine's Day!

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  104. My, my. While I was busy today, my blog was busy too.

    @Sarah, thank you. Very nicely stated.

    @Steven, amen to the webcam and Skype statement! ;-) ♥♥

    @Lisa, I wish your friend loved you back the way you love him. I really do. It's hard to be in love with someone who doesn't love you the same way. But not every male/female relationship goes this way. I've been friends with a guy for 15 years, and there has never been anything remotely romantic between us, ever. He's like one of my little brothers. There have been times we've been very close, and yet it still remained a very platonic friendship. So I know it's possible. I hope things work out for you with your friend. And I hope you have a good Valentine's Day or St. Upid's Day! :-)

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  105. Happy St. Upid's Day!

    I'm glad you have a Valentine and hope the two of you have a very nice day or evening together tomorrow. Thank you for sharing via your blog and inspiring so many people to come up with great St. Upid's Day ideas! :-)

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  106. It's arrived!

    Happy Upid's Day!

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  107. Happy St. Upid's Day! I hope everyone enjoys it in the spirit it was intended... fun! ;-)

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  108. Today is the day! Happy day to all!

    Dinner tonight with my friends and I need it.

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  109. Happy St. Upid's Day from all of my friends and me! Kisses!

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  110. Happy St. Upid's Day!

    Among our movie selections today:

    - The Road Warrior
    - Ocean's Eleven
    - The Godfather
    - Die Hard
    - Alien
    - The Lord of the Rings Trilogy
    - The Legend of Hell House
    - Dial M for Murder
    - The Ring
    - Signs
    - Kill Bill

    I don't think we'll get through them all. LOL!

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  111. @Sara:
    LMAO! at the movie selections! Hope y'all are having/had a good time! :-)

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  112. @Steven64, you know we're going to want to know how Valentine's Day was. Ya better do good! LOL! ;-)

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  113. That's right because most of us don't have men, so you're representing all of them! No pressure though. Ha!

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  114. @Jen and Elichia: LMAO! No pressure...chee'ya, right! The challenge of making Valentine's Day special...on a Monday. Yeesh. OK - I can do this. I can do this! (big, inappropriately confident guy-grin)

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  115. Happy V-Day! We had a fabu St. Upid's Day yesterday. Thank you so much for suggesting it! Lot's of fun. I'm going to work today in a great mood!

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  116. St. Upid's Day was a blast! So happy you blogged about it. We're going to do it again next year, even if we have Valentines. What a fun idea.

    Happy Valentine's Day!

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  117. All I can say is...

    St. Upid's Day.

    Friends.

    Spa.

    Food.

    Fun.

    Happiness.

    :-)

    Hope you have a great Valentine's Day!

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  118. Oh and @Steven64, we believe in you! You CAN do it! :-)

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  119. OK, @Steven64 and other men, get comfortable because this is complicated.

    12 women were at our St. Upid’s Day event and we discussed the whole “is it OK for your guy to give other women a Valentine” thing. Here’s what we decided.

    It depends.

    Your “Jewish Mom” would be OK with everyone. It’s a family type relationship, so it’s OK. There is no chance of a romance on either side, so it’s considered safe. If you described her as a sister, it would be OK. Family relationships are fine, but it has to be very clear that it’s a family type relationship.

    But, if the woman isn’t considered a sister or mom, it’s a VERY, VERY different story, and there are different situations.

    #1 - If our guys are friends with a woman, and he hasn’t done anything to assure us that she’s like a sister or mother to him, and we haven’t met her, she is suspect. Period. Sending a Valentine is unacceptable. All women agreed that they would wonder why their man felt the need to send her something. Why isn’t he assuring us she’s nothing more than a sister or mother? Why haven’t we met her? What is he hiding from us?

    #2 - If he told us the woman was just a friend and we had met her, it would be different, depending on what we saw when they interacted. If they flirted or we heard they flirted when we weren’t around, she is again suspect. Period. Sending a Valentine is unacceptable, and again all women agreed they would wonder why their man felt the need to send her something. It would appear there is something deeper there that the two either haven’t acknowledged or are hiding. Flirting with a woman he claims is a close friend and sending her a Valentine sends us the message that he is really interested in that woman romantically, and may be keeping her in reserve in case things don’t work out with us.

    #3 - If he told us the woman was just a friend and we had met her and we saw that they had no chemistry, they were honestly just buddies and pals, we’d be fine with it. Send her a Valentine, we don’t care. We can see there is nothing going on and never will be. He may not have stated she’s like a sister, but we can see it.

    As for whether we’d let our guys know how we were feeling, it was half and half. Everyone said they would feel insecure and jealous, but only half said they would show it in some way. The other half said they would hide it because it would just cause problems. But they said it would still bother them, and they’re afraid it would come out in other ways in the relationship.

    You see, it’s complicated. I hope that helps. Women are complicated. Our feelings are complicated. It’s your job as the man with a female friend to make us feel comfortable and secure about your relationship with that woman. It is NOT on us to just accept it at face value. You have to do your part. If we’re feeling insecure about it, you need to prove to us that it’s just a friendship. Let us meet the woman. Introduce us. We want to know she’s aware you’re in a committed relationship. Don’t flirt with her. Let us hear from other people that there is nothing going on between you two. Help us see that it’s just a friendship, don’t just tell us.

    Approved by the St. Upid’s Day 12.

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  120. @Steven64 - So what have you done for @Christy so far? We're most of the way through the morning. Update us! We're living vicariously through her today. Did you wake her up with a cute phone call? Send her a romantic text? A hot email? :-)

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  121. Maybe I should have asked @Christy. What's he done? Update us! :-)

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  122. @Tammy, maybe we're prying and putting too much pressure on them by asking what they're doing every minute of the day. As someone who has no love today either, I'd like to know as well, but we probably shouldn't ask. Just saying. :)

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  123. @Anonymous - You're probably right. I got caught up in things. My bad. It just would have been fun to hear if he had done something for her already. I feel like I've gotten to know them a little through this blog the past few days. I'm cheering for their romance. Wish I had a nice guy like he seems to be. :-)

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  124. I'm sure they'll tell us what they're comfortable sharing. We just have to be patient. :)

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  125. Happy Valentine's Day to you!

    Our St. Upid's Day party was a huge success. We had men, women, straight, gay, everyone. It was a blast! I haven't been to a real party in years, so this was extra fun for me. I saw old friends I've lost touch with. Didn't know we were all single again, and now we're planning on getting together to do some things. Life is twisty. Who knew we'd all be in our 40's and looking for love all over again. Well, some aren't. They say they're done. Not me! :)

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  126. Came on to add my 2 cents about St. Upid's Day. I've been reading the comments since last week. Oy. So many, but fun!

    We had a great time yesterday. All my girls and one honorary "girl" in the form of our gay best friend. :) We did the whole girlie thing, drank, ate, laughed, and cried. It was the best. We're doing it all again next month.

    @Steven64, I love the way everyone is pressuring you on here. Hope it isn't getting to you. For real. Don't let it. Just enjoy the day with your lady. You two are lucky to have each other. No matter what you do today, it will be right for you guys.

    Gotta agree with Shannon on her post. She's right on every count. @Steven64 were smart in making sure @Christy knew your friend was like a mom. Good man! Don't ever give her reason to doubt you. That's where my man went wrong. He had a female "best friend" who turned into more. I'd call him a name, but this seems to be a clean place. :)

    Anyway, happy Valentine's Day to all the chicas out there!

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  127. I'd like to hear about some romance too. We're entering the afternoon. Flowers? Card? Gift? I love you text or call? Something?

    Come on. It's the day of love! Give us something. ;-)

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  128. All this pressure. If I were them, I wouldn't post anything. :-)

    Lighten up everyone. Let them have their day without having to post updates. Maybe it's personal and private. Or maybe they're working today and have plans this evening.

    Let's cut them some slack. OK? :-)

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  129. I agree. I've been reading the comments since last week because they've been fun and interesting, but I'm feeling like the questions about what Christy is doing or getting or hearing for V-Day is a little intrusive. If they want us to know, I'll bet they'll tell us. They aren't a celebrity couple. Geez. This is just my opinion.

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  130. @All You Curious, Wonderful Ladies:
    Alright, I can't resist. I was gonna wait until tomorrow or much later tonight, but you guys are relentless! LOL!

    First of all, it may indeednbe intrusive, but we don't mind; not one bit! We have all gotten to know each other a bit over the last few days and this whole 'thing' has been a blast. There's not really much to report now, though. Christy is 2 hours behind me, time-zone-wise, so she texted me first this morning. She's has a 'regular' job so she can't get to the computer as readily as I can since I work out of my home.

    Sooo . . . St. Upid's was spent texting throughout the day and then video-Skyping in the evening about what we're having for dinner tonight. We went over recipes and picked something to make 'together' tonight via Skype. We'll cook 'together' on our laptops in the kitchen and move to our desktop computers and eat, talk, laugh, talk, and laugh some more. And for dessert we'll open our Valentine's Day gifts to each other. All in all, a nice technologically assisted romantic evening. (Too bad it's a frickin' Monday!)

    Of course, we'll update you gals later. :-)

    @Shannon et. al.:
    The St. Upid's 12 seem to be on right on the mark. I will add my 'guy' 2 cents' worth: it goes both ways. Anytime someone already in a relationship has a "best friend" that remains suspiciously mysterious, it ain't good news. Been there, done that (on the receiving end, that is). I think when you're in love there are certain things that demand full disclosure. Who you're hanging out with and the nature of that hanging out is mandatory. I in the unfortunate predicament of having almost ALL female friends. And trust me, it really is unfortunate. What I try to do is let Christy know exactly what's going with me and them at any given time. Because of proximity, she hasn't met any of them which is a recipe for discomfort and insecurity, so I try to give her the essence of who they are, what they're lives are like and my impression of them as people. One did have a crush on me (omg!) and I avoid her like the plague. (No Valentine's card there.)

    It can be challenging being apart for all sorts of reasons (get your minds out of the gutter!), but we make it work the best we can. One of the most important things is honesty. We talk often, laugh often and don't hide anything that could potentially be hurtful. I am, however, really good at hiding when I've sent her a gift. She never knows I've sent anything 'til it arrives. But I put that firmly in the category of a "white lie". :-)

    @All, again:
    It sounds a bunch of you had really great St. Upid's day celebrations. WAY cool! :-)

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  131. @Steven64 - I hope this is OK to put to you... ♥

    Your comment made me wish I was @Christy, even if you aren't in the same state. It sounds like you have a better relationship than most people who live in the same house. I love that you're going to cook together using your laptops. That's very cool! And then you get to eat dinner together and open gifts you sent to each other! Things have changed so much over the years. I hope some day you two live in the same city though so you can do this in person.

    Too bad about that all female friends thing. I wouldn't like that at all, but it sounds like you guys have worked it out.

    Thanks for giving us nosey Nellys an update. It was very sweet of you. :-)

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  132. @Steven64: Thanks for the update! If you can't be there in person, it sounds like you have it worked out for the next best thing. Gotta love Skype, right? I never thought about doing things with someone using it. I just talk to my family across the country. We sit in front the computer and the conversation lasts all of ten minutes before we're done. How fun ot actually do an activity together like cooking. Very creative! Although I can't think of what we'd do, but maybe I can come up with something.

    Anyway, I just wanted to apologize for being one of the ones to pressure you into telling us your plans, but I do like hearing what you're doing. I'm envious. It would be nice to have someone to cook with, eat with, talk to, laugh with tonight. I hope you two have a very nice night together. Even if it is Monday. LOL!

    Happy Valentine's Day!

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  133. Adding my ♥ to this. Sounds like a very nice night. I'm with the other two people. I'd love it if I had someone to do all that with. Not just tonight but every night. Of course I'd rather him be in the same town, but if you can't be, you two have worked it out really well. I think a lot of people are doing that now. A lady at church is doing the long distance thing with her husband because of his job. I think they Skype.

    Do you get to see each other in person very often? I hope so. And I'm with Tammy. I hope some day you live in the same town and celebrate Valentine's Day in person.

    Have a good night you two!

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  134. @}-;-'---

    A rose for the two of you. :-)

    Hope you have a fabulous V-Day! Sounds like a perfect evening to me! I'd love to spend it cooking, eating, talking, laughing, opening gifts with a special someone. You're very lucky.

    And I'd like to add that honesty and open communication are the key to great relationships. You have a very good chance of making it! :-)

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  135. @Tammy, Anonymous, Denise and Shayla:
    You're all really sweet to say what you've said. I think Christy and I are lucky, but I'm appreciating even more muchly (grin) right this second. :-) We have our ups and downs, but it's been mostly ups. Neither of us have had a significant Valentine's Day in quite a few years, but I don't think either of us anticipated this one being as special as it's shaping up to be. All of you have made extra special, strange as that may sound. And Skype really does rock!

    @Tammy:
    It's a blog - Nosey Nellies are always welcome!!

    @Anonymous:
    I got my mom a webcam at Christmas and signed her up on Skype we have YET to actually chat on the computer. We talk on the phone all the time, but not Skype. Yet. In time you'll find some folks that you really wanna talk to. They're out there. Trust me. :-)

    @Denise:
    Christy and I spent 3 and a half days together this Christmas when I went to visit my mom. They live in the same state and I may actually be moving up there in September so I can be pampered by BOTH of them! LOL! (NOTE: 25 days in a row with Mom was fun but it was a loooong visit!)

    @Shayla:
    Complete honesty that it took me longer to learn than I care to admit. I feel pretty safe admitting here, though, because you all have shared so much. It's really pretty damn cool. And I LOVE the rose!

    I know I keep saying this, but this has been really amazing. That dozens from around the country have gotten "together" to share St. Upid's and St. Valentine's Days is just unbelievable. In an age where there are so many cautionary tales about the dangers of online this and that, it's reassuring to realize, firsthand, how many of us just want to connect and share and have fun.

    Oh, and Tammy and Denise? I think in this context, the hearts are just fine. ♥ :-)

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  136. What do you mean you MAY be moving there? Get on with it man! Move there! ;-) Your mom and your woman live there. What's this MAY business? There should be no doubt about it. We're cheering for this! Move, move, move!

    I'm really happy to hear you spent some time together recently. That makes me very happy.

    Now move it, man! ;-)

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  137. @Tammy: LMAO!!! Workin' on it, workin' on it!

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  138. Once again, I'm with Tammy. I know you're going to make a big life decision based on our opinions, so I think you need to definitely move too! Take that MAY out of your sentence. LOL!

    You need to be in the same state or city as your mom and Christy! Let them pamper you!

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  139. @Denise and Tammy:
    "May"? Did I say "MAY"? Um...I meant, ummm...I meant I'll be...looking for apartments in May. Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's the ticket. LOL!

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  140. Uh huh. Sounds like a story to me. :-) Move man! Don't hesitate. Just move. For your mom and love! :-)

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  141. Yes, move man! LOL! Take that MAY out of the sentence, find a place to live, and move. Sometimes you just have to go for it. Especially if you've got someone really special in your life, and it sounds like you do.

    Some things are worth taking a risk for. They're worth diving into the deep end. It sounds like you've got someone really special who just might be worth diving in for. That really doesn't come around that often. So move and find out if you really do. Long distance can work for a while, but eventually you have to make a decision to dive. Be near each other so you can see if it's going to really work.

    Why not commit and do it? Take the MAY out of the sentence. :-)

    Tammy and I are right on this! :-)

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  142. Holy wow! You two are just little bundles of pressure (@Tammy and @Denise)! LOL! Give the man a break. I'm sure he's weighing his options and trying to figure it all out. He hasn't even said they're in love. From what I'm deducing they're long distance dating, spent several days together during the holidays, and are spending a special Valentines evening together. I'm all for love stories, but I don't remember reading the word love in any of their postings. Just yours. Golly! :-)

    @Steven64: Just wanted to wish you a nice Valentine's evening tonight. I hope you and @Christy have a good one. Sounds relaxing. Don't let the matchmakers push you. They have good intentions I'm sure.

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  143. @Anonymous - I'm just a hopeless romantic wanting things to work out for someone because they aren't working out for me. :-( But you're right. I need to back off. I really do want to see him move closer to her. It's become a love story for me. But I'll let it go. I just got caught up in everything again.

    @Steven64 - Sorry to pressure you. I hope things work out. You know I'll be checking this blog between now and September to see if there is any word of you moving. ;-) But no pressure. Aren't you glad you're not in a relationship with me! HA!

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  144. I suppose I got a little caught up in things too. I have a friend who let someone really good for him get away recently because he was afraid to commit to her, and I think I was projecting a lot of his situation onto you and yours. :-)

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  145. By the time I realized how important complete honesty and open communication were, it was too late and I was in the middle of a divorce. I'm happy you've learned @Steven64. It shows you're growing. You and @Christy are both lucky to recognize it and have it in your relationship. I really do believe it's the key to making it work.

    I'm not going to jump on the "move" bandwagon, but I am rooting for you two. I sincerely hope things work out in the long run for you. It's incredible when the right people find each other. If you can talk, laugh, understand each other, have fun together, find you have things in common, etc. then you've really found something wonderful. It doesn't come along every day. I'm finding the older I get, the less it comes along.

    This is Shayla signing off for the day. Have a lovely night together. May Cupid be on his best behavior with your hearts.

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  146. @Anonymous: Just a note.

    They may not have said the word "love", but there is a whole lot of indication of strong commitment to one another, emotional intimacy, honest communication, a lot of time spent together in person/ online/ on the phone/ via text, and more.

    I'm just saying that you don't have to use the word "love" to indicate that there is a love relationship happening. That's why some of the ladies have been all over this romance. It's fun to know two people either are in love or are falling in love. If we don't have it in our own lives right now, let us live through them. It makes us happy. If some are pushing a little too much, maybe @Steven or @Christy can tell them to lighten up. :)

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  147. @Cara - Thanks! :-)

    I want them to be in love. :-)

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  148. Wait! @Steven64 did say something about "when you're in love" so that's why we all think they are. So there you go, @Anonymous. It was stated.

    I'm just passing it on to you. :-)

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  149. @All:
    I was gonna try make this "@" individuals, but I got lazy and my eyes started bleeding (LOL!), so I figured I'd make this a collective comment. :-)

    @Christy and I are in love, so all the wishing and pushing isn't actually necessary, but I think it's sweet as can be. @Anonymous, thanks for watching our backs, but @Cara summed it up nicely. And @Tammy caught on early.

    As for the "MAY", all I can say is...whoops. LOL! Serious plans are in motion, and those that need to know, do. It's not 'if', but 'when', so all is right with the world!

    Now I have groceries to put away for our Valentine's Day (night) meal. But I/we'll letcha know how it goes. (Well...most of it!)

    @Denise:
    I meant to mention that

    your

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  150. I hope you had a very nice Valentine's Day night! Looking forward to reading how it went! Know we won't get dtails but... ;-)

    Happpy Day!

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  151. Thanks for sharing part of your life with us. I know it's private stuff, but this is a hard time of year for some of us and reading about two people in love is very nice. I didn't chime in with Tammy yesterday, but count me on her side. Glad we don't have anything to worry about with the MAY word. LOL! :)

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  152. Ok. We were good and left you two alone on Valentines night. So fill us in. We love a good love story. How'd it go? What'd you do?

    Settling in with popcorn...

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  153. @Steven64 or @Christy - Bring it on! LOL!

    @Steven64 - Thanks for putting my mind at ease. I'm glad the move is happening. I'm still going to tune in now and then to see if an update has been posted. Maybe @Christy can put something in her blog when you make it there.

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  154. Mornin' All!
    So I'm putting away groceries last night, humming a little Valentine's Day carol (just go with it), and I get a text: "Stuck in front of railroad crossing and the train isn't moving. Ugh!" I was like, bad omen...? Not even close. We had a wonderful night!

    For dinner, we made Salisbury Steak from scratch, which is neither as easy or as fancy as it sounds. (Think hamburger patties with mushroom/wine sauce.) And mashed potatoes for me, angel hair pasta for her, and steamed veggies for both of us. Believe it or not, very healthy.

    After we were done cooking, we plopped down in front of our desktop computers and video-Skype'd while we ate and just talked and laughed and talked through the meal, which was delicious. Then we talked some more and opened our Valentine's gifts. (Don't even think about asking what we gave each other!) We were 'together' for about 5 hours last night and both slept like babies afterward.

    At some point, in the middle of talking about something (politics, religion, gay rights, our conversations just spiral out of control), we both noticed that there hadn't been any postings on the blog. And we were both like, "OMG! They left us alone to our evening. That is SOOOO sweet!" LOL! Seriously though, you ladies -- ALL of you -- helped make this the best Valentine's Day...ever. EV-VUR. The outpouring of enthusiastic (that's Christy's word; I used the word "brazen" LOL!) support for our relationship and well-being has been absolutely amazing! For a few short days, a bunch of us 'strangers' came together and shared and laughed and bonded in a way that was...well, I can't even think of how to say it. It's just been really nice. This is the good part of life. So, on behalf of Christy and me, thank you! :-)

    Okay - bring on the Q&A! ;-P

    @Emma: WAY too early for popcorn! LOL!

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  155. @Tammy:
    You're welcome! :-) I'm really looking forward to getting outta Dodge, trust me. And I'm sure she'll be posting updates as my move gets closer. She's also coming to visit me in April, so there'll lots to brag about! LOL!

    @Tammy and All:
    Y'know, if you set up a Google profile (or one the other free thingies), you can "follow" this blog. It won't automatically send you emails or spam or anything, but I know Christy would like it because she's had so much fun with you. Plus - having "Followers" feels really cool. :-)

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  156. That's so nice!!! 5 hours of together time!!! I just want to swoon. Cooking, eating, talking, opening gifts. It sounds so perfect.


    I guess it would be asking too much to know what you gave each other. Some things are too personal. :-)

    Here's my question. We can see a photo of @Christy. But we don't know what you look like. Why don't you use your real photo? I'm dying to know what you look like!!!

    Thank you for sharing your life with us!!! :-)

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  157. Oh look. I have an orange thing next to my name now. I need a photo. Will have to do that when I get home. I don't have one on my work computer. Shhh. Don't tell them I'm on here! :-)

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  158. Thanks for the update. Very, very nice. I'm satisfied now. :)

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  159. @Tammy:
    YAY! You're now an official "orange B"! Christy'll be thrilled. Now get back to work! LOL!

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  160. @Tammy:
    Oops. Meant to 'splain my photo. The first forum I ever posted on, everyone had these goofy 'avatars', so I just picked Spock 'cos, well, I like Spock. Anyway, I just never changed it. Plus, I'm a Trekkie, so it sorta fits.

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  161. LOL! I thought that was Spock! Will we ever get to see what you look like? Maybe @Christy can post photos of the two of you together from the visit in April? Are there photos from your Christmas visit? Am I asking too much?

    I guess I should get some work done. LOL!

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  162. Sounds like a really great night together! Thanks for answering all of our questions @Steven64. You've been really sweet about all of this. :-)

    I'm with Tammy. I'd like to see photos of the two of you.

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  163. I'm following too now, but I have to tell you that it took me many, many times because I kept getting error messages. You may not be getting followers because people are giving up. I mean, if I weren't so determined, I probably would have just said to heck with it and not followed you. There comes a point though where I just had to make it work. LOL!

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  164. @Tammy & Denise:
    LOVE Spock (geeeek)!

    'm actually in the photo Christy has on here, but I'm cropped out! LOL! She's at work right now too, but maybe she can figure out how to put something up that shows us. :-) (I'm still keeping Spock though, dammit!)

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  165. And why isn't my photo showing up? I put one in. :-(

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  166. Aw. Why she'd crop you out? We demand you be put back in! LOL!

    Really we'd like to see you instead of Spock. Or maybe I'm just talking for myself. :-)

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  167. This is a test to see if my photo shows now.

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  168. Yay! Look @Steven64! I'm like you now! No photo of the real me! LOL!

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  169. @Denise - I think I've fixed mine too. It's not my photo, but I can change that later.

    @Christy - I got error messages too. I guess I'm stubborn like @Denise.

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  170. @Steven64 - Yes! We deman you be put back in the photo! LOL! Let's see your face!

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  171. It's never too early for popcorn! Thanks for sharing your evening. It sounds great! I would have loved to have had an evening like that. You're both very lucky.

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  172. @Denise & Tammy:
    That's frustrating about the errors. That also happens sometimes when I'm trying to leave a comment, but it hasn't happened lately.

    But cool! I can see kitties and jewels! We'll see about the photo of me...;-P

    @Emma:
    Come to think of it, aren't Kellogg's Sugar Pops basically popcorn? lol! And thank you, it's been fun sharing.

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  173. @Steven64: I've had it happen with comments too. I hit the post comment button over and over and it doesn't post. Don't know why. Today has been bad for that.

    Come on! Let us see a photo of you! @Christy is really pretty, so you can't be bad yourself. Come on! :-)

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  174. @Tammy, you're too much sometimes. What's next that you're going to bug him about? Gosh!

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  175. @Anonymous I'm just having fun and I think he knows that. Don't you @Steven64? I really do want to see what you look like, but I'm just having fun pestering you about the photo. :-)

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  176. @Tammy:
    Pester away, m'dear! ;-)

    @Anonymous:
    No worries! It's all good.

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  177. Thanks! I thought you'd understand. :-)

    I'm done with my pestering for the day though. Time to leave the online world and join the real world rat race so I can run errands. Ain't life fun? I'm looking forward to seeing what you look like with your sweetheart, @Christy. :-)

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  178. Oh and I wanted to add before I go, that reading about the night you two had was really nice. This is for you both ♥♥♥♥♥. I'm so happy for you!

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  179. Thank you for the update about your night. I hate to admit it but I've been looking forward to coming home and checking the comments to see if you posted something. This was the highlight of my day. I love a good love storuy and yours is. @Steven64 I love the way you told it with the text and all. It was so good. I wish I was @Christy. Maybe next year I'll have my own guy. Till then I like your story.

    How did you meet?

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  180. @Anonymous you're not alone. I was at work wondering if they had posted an update about their night. I'm a hopeless romantic and hoped it would be a romantic one for them. Anyway, the first thing I did when I got home was check to see if there was a post. Thank you @Steven64! I'm imagining what a great night you 2 had. Cooking dinner together, eating, talking, laughing.....I want that someday. Do you have brother? LOL!

    I think you 2 are great. You're showing some of us possibilities. I needed that in my life. I'm not putting my name because I'm going to admit I was pretty hopeless. I had given up on finding love. I don't know why but reading about you 2 has made me believe it could be possible for me to. I know it doesn't make sense. I'm just leting you know. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    I'm going to go watch a romantic comedy now and know that love is possible. Thank you both!

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  181. @Steven64 you've made this blog a lot of fun for me and I'll bet a lot of other people too! Just wanted to say thanks to you and @Christy.

    I'm totally stealing this from someone else on here, but I thought it was cool.

    Here's a rose for @Christy...

    @}-;-'---

    And here's a rose for @Steven64...

    @}-;-'---

    This is me wishing you both the very best! ♥♥♥♥

    Who says it has to be Valentine's Day to get hearts? LOL!

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  182. Oh really nice @Denise! I agree so add just make that from both of us! LOL! I feel like we've become friends these past days and I can say that. :-)

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  183. @Christy I'm ready for your next topic. Bring it on girl! What's it going to be? I've looked around and you seem to change with the wind. I like that. Keeps life interesting. I'm happy to see @Steven64 usually comments on your stuff. I like him. Ya hear that @Steven64? LOL! :-)

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  184. LOL! We have become friends @Tammy and my comment can be from both of us! :)

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  185. @Christy...noticed you have been absent from your blog..hope you didn't get overhelmed by the responses or Steven64 gave us too much information. :-)

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  186. @Anonymous, not at all. I've been busy with work, and Steven was doing such a nice job of fielding questions and keeping everyone informed, I just let him handle it for me. I knew generally what he was going to tell everyone before he posted it because we talked first. :-) I also answered queries privately via e-mail. So never fear, I'm still here and all is well.

    @All, I should have posted something sooner and thanked you for a really fun experience. It's been a blast coming home to see what you've posted. I never expected my little item, posted on whim, to generate such a large response. I've enjoyed every minute of it. You helped make this Valentine's Day a special and fun one for Steven and me.

    So this goes out to everyone who posted a comment...

    ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

    Because @Denise is right. Who says it has to be Valentine's Day to get hearts? You all deserve the very best that life has to offer. I hope the coming year is one filled with many moments of happiness and love, whether romantic, family, or that of friendship.

    Now, if I could just think of a really great topic for my next post... ;-)

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  187. @Christy, you and @Steven64 have made it a whole lot of fun for all of us too. :-)

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  188. @Christy..glad to hear.

    Next topic..how did you two meet? I know more that one of us wants to know the story. We all love a good love story, especially a long distance love story, there the best kind..

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  189. @Anonymous, LOL, you're not the first to ask. We met 13 years ago while celebrating the birthday of a mutual friend, and hit it off immediately. At that time we lived in the same city, and dated briefly. But sometimes the timing just isn't right, and that was the case for us back then. It was no big deal, we simply went our separate ways and moved on with our lives.

    Fast forward 13 years.

    Last summer I mentioned Steven to a friend of mine and she challenged me to look him up on Facebook. I did and we began to reconnect immediately. Thanks to the wonderful world of technology, and perhaps even because of the distance, we've been able to get to know each other in a way we didn't 13 years ago, and have found we have a lot in common and truly enjoy spending time together. We can talk for hours, and we've learned to be creative in doing activities together (such as cooking the same meal together via Skype with our laptops in our kitchens). All I can say is thank goodness for Skype, cell phones, texting, e-mails, Facebook, the U.S. Postal Service, and airplanes that fly 1500 miles across the country! I'm visiting him this spring, and we're both looking forward to his move to my state later this year, because of course that will make things much easier.

    I hope that satisfies everyone's curiosity. Naturally, there are details of our relationship that belong to just us, but we both think it's cool that everyone is so interested. :-)

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  190. I've been lurking, hoping you would post how you met. Very romantic that you dated 13 years ago and now you're back together and have found out you have a lot in common! I was hoping for more details though. I know it's prying, but I want to know exactly how things developed since last summer. Paint me a picture. I want a movie in my head. LOL! I'm just kidding. I know it's your private life and this is a very public place. Thanks for sharing with us. It really is a romantic story. I think a lot of us wonder about someone we dated in our past, and think about the possibilities of finding them now. :-)

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  191. @Christy I love yours and @Steven64's love story! It's the kind of thing you think only happens in books or movies. @Mary is right. A lot of us wonder about someone we dated years ago. I know I do. Sadly the man I'd want to reconnect with is happily married, but I think that's more typical than your story. I'm rooting for you and hoping it works out. I want you to have your happy ending. From reading your posts on here, you both seem like nice people. :-)

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  192. 13 years... you're not just a typical long distance relationship. It's very romantic! Did you expect this when you contacted him last summer? Or was it just a happy accident that you ended up falling in love?

    This is one of the best "how did you get together" stories I've heard!

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  193. @Jen it is one of the best "how did you get together" or "how did you meet" stories ever! :)

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